• Anger Management • Anger Therapy • Anger Treatment • Aggression Therapy • Aggression Management • Aggression Treatment •
• Anger • Violence • Bullying • Abuse • Passive Aggression • Manipulation • Control • Road Rage • Assault • Common Assault • Domestic Violence •
TonicTalk Counselling and Psychotherapy is a professional full-time private practice offering a full range of Counselling Services. Our office hours are 8:00am till 9:30pm and we will be happy to receive your call.
Tel: 01933 395 497 (Private office line)
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Anger and Aggression, which are both necessary to our survival and psychological wellbeing, can easily become confused, misused and harnessed or pressed into serving very unhelpful aspects of our personalities, values and belief systems. It is without doubt true that most people suffer from some form of frustration, resentment, insecurity or low self-worth which either periodically or consistently leads to angry or aggressive thoughts or behaviours aimed at others. Most people tend to have aggressive imaginings and to suffer from periodic or episodic outbursts which afterwards they attempt to make reparations for; while others suffer from more persistent aggressive tendencies.
Anger Management Therapy is capable of helping both groups of individuals by offering an opportunity to resolving the root causes behind frustration, resentment, insecurity and low self-worth. In doing so it offers a sustainable long term solution to all forms of unwanted angry and aggression tendencies that may blight people’s lives.
TonicTalk's Anger Management services are second to none and include training and classes for individuals, couples and groups. Within relationships, aggressive and or violent behaviour is either individual with a single anger-sufferer or reciprocal involving both parties. TonicTalk specialists are highly skilled in helping individuals and couples work through their issues so that aggression and violence no longer ruins their lives, relationships and family life.
Individual Anger Management Training: One to One appointments
- £50 per hour (pro-rata there after) weekdays between 9:00am and 9:00pm
- Saturday and Sunday from morning till late evening: Intensive Appointments, (minimum TWO hours), £60 per hour pro-rata
Counselling Aggressive Couples:
- Week days, Monday to Friday £80 per 75 minutes 9:00am and 9:00pm
- Saturday and Sunday from morning till late evening: Intensive Appointments, (minimum TWO hours), £60 per hour pro-rata
Intensive Anger Management Classes:
- Monday to Sunday from morning till late evening: Intensive Appointments, (minimum TWO hours), £60 per hour pro-rata
Intensive Anger Management for Couples:
- Monday to Sunday from morning till late evening: Intensive Appointments, (minimum TWO hours), £60 per hour pro-rata
Example: A weekday appointment, morning, daytime or evening, for an individual costs only £50.
For more information on Anger Management fees please visit our Fees and Conditions page.
While Anger Management continues to be the common term used to describe interventions designed to help others deal with their Anger and Aggression, it has been replaced and superseded by ‘Anger Therapy’. It has long been recognised that old style Anger Management was insufficient in achieving long term sustainable results. While in the short term, Anger Management achieved reasonable results, it is generally focussed upon symptoms and failed to resolve underlying causation. And thus, in the long term, symptoms return and sometimes with renewed vigour and destructive force. Also, Anger Management training offers ‘tools’ to help individuals cope with their issues. However, it is now known that many of the tools offered create more problems than they resolve. The use of ‘tools’ to overcome or mask symptoms inevitably cannot offer longevity or sustainability and the failure of many tools results in the worsening of problems and engenders feelings of failure, deficiency, hopelessness and self-deprecation, (punishing oneself and thinking ill of oneself), which further adds to one’s issues.
For example; tools like Displacement, Distraction and ‘walking away’ were and still seem to be, heavily promoted, however, they are known to either not work or be so impractical in application that they do more damage that good.
“Displacement Therapy” is based on a popular misconception amongst ‘lay people’ and some therapists and trainers which encourages the use of objects as ‘punch-bags’ for the expression of anger and aggression. It was though that to encourage the ‘healthy’ expression of built up frustration and aggression would alleviate the pressure on the individual and allow them to maintain a calmer and better adjusted state. However, this type of ‘therapy’ is has long been discredited as it fails to address the underlying causation and in fact ‘normalises’ violence. Expressing anger and aggression towards ‘punch-bags’, while ‘imagining’ striking a person or thinking about a person, is, to the mind, is no different from striking that person for ‘real’. The mind does not differentiate between what is ‘real’ and what is imagined. This type of activity overcomes an individual’s inhibitions concerning harming others and it becomes easier to do so each time one engages in it. And thus in situations where there are no punch bags and the individual feels the need, they will lash out.
Other ‘tools’ which encourage the individual to attempt to ‘Distract’ themselves from their Aggressive thoughts or ‘Walk Away’ from a volatile situation are quite simply ridiculous, impractical, cannot be relied upon and promote feelings of failure and helplessness. Avoiding an issue only pushed the issue outside of the individual’s sphere of influence and thus allows it to work unhindered. Not only that, have you ever tried to not think about something or replace it with something else while you are in the middle of it? It is a ridiculous notion. And as for “walking away”, our issues are based on our perceptions which we carry within our minds; one cannot walk away from one’s mind. Alternatively, if it is a volatile situation involving others, more often than not the others involved will either prevent the individual from escaping or pursue them. Also, turning your back on others and walking away is risky and denies the others a right to speak and thus is ‘passive-Aggressive’ in itself and may result in more violence.
Also, as is often the case, Anger Management’ trainers are not fully qualified and indemnified Counsellors or Psychotherapists. They are often individuals who see ‘Anger Management’ as a lucrative opportunity to make money and attend minimum training in order to enable them to facilitate their ‘client work’. However, they are ill qualified and untrained in dealing with the very real and often complex personal issues that lie at the centre of their client’s problems. What they actually offer to clients is a ‘sticking plaster’ in the form of a cognitive or behavioural ‘fix’ that has no depth or longevity in its application which becomes ‘unstuck’ under the pressure and strain of deeper issues.
In light or the above, and the moral and ethical need to offer clients help and support that provides for realistic long term sustainable results; regardless of their popularity and the obvious easy financial gains that such formulaic training offer, the therapists at TonicTalk do not offer nor engage in such bogus practices. Nor do we teach people not to be angry, or do we have any interest in judging an individual and their behaviour as ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Anything that advocates avoiding one’s anger or judging it is counterproductive and encourages denial and psychological defences and repression.
Anger is a normal necessary psychological and physiological response to certain psychological processes and therefore we encourage a healthy, open and honest dialogue in which the individual can speak freely and openly without fear of rejection, judgement or retaliation. We facilitate a true exploration and resolution of the causation behind Anger and Aggression. We help, support and encourage individuals to discover why they are angry, how to engage with and process their issues and how to change their way of being. Our approach is proven and fully supported and while we may see fit to offer some appropriate and effective short term psychotherapeutic interventions, they are purely offered so as to help facilitate a longer term resolution.
Anger Management is somewhat of a misnomer for what we offer as our Anger Management is more properly called Anger Therapy and is offered to you and practiced by fully trained Psychotherapists and Counsellors who have completed years of training and personal development. Anger Therapy is an in depth intervention based on proven Psychotherapeutic Techniques that offer long term sustainable results. As a Psychotherapeutic and Counselling practice TonicTalk is also able to offer help to both those that have suffered at the hands of Aggressive, Angry, Bullying or Violent individuals as well as those who wish to overcome their own Angry, Aggressive or Violent behaviour.
Considering the importance of psychological health and the impact that personal issues and concerns can have on an individual’s life and wellbeing; we feel that it is important for clients to find accessible professional and effective Counselling and Psychotherapy services. To this end we have two venues that can be accessed conveniently in which such services can be found.
This private room is bright and airy and comfortably furnished and is conveniently situated in East Northamptonshire with plenty of parking and easy access from the A6 and A45.
Its catchment area includes Rushden, Corby, Kettering, Wellingborough, Wollaston, Irthlingborough, Finedon, Thrapston, St. Neots, Pavenham, Sharnbrook, Billing, Earls Barton, Cogenhoe, Great Doddington, Northampton, and Bedford. All are within 15 miles travel. See Contact Us for more details.
This room is situated within DeVere’s hotel and conference facility in Newport Pagnell. It is a smart, tidy building with plenty of off-street parking, a public gym, reception areas, coffee bars, internet access and much more besides. The room itself is light and spacious and furnished in a contemporary style. Utilising a conference facility allows us to offer our clients complete anonymity and confidentiality. If you arrive early to your session you can relax and take advantage of the public waiting area with refreshments and WC. This facility has excellent disabled access.
Its catchment area includes Milton Keynes, Olney, Emberton, Kempston, Stony Stratford, Bletchley, Bedford and other surrounding towns and villages. See Contact Us for more details.
This section contains pages pertaining to each of our therapists. We hope that this will allow you to get to know our therapists a little better and help you choose who you would like to work with.
His experience is wide and varied and ranges from common life issues including: Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem issues, Relationship issues, Bereavement, childhood neglect and abuse, Bullying, Divorce and Separation, Work and Career issues, Adoption, Spousal / Partner / Wife / Husband Abuse, Anger Management issues, Substance Misuse, Alcoholism and Self Harm, and Neglect. To less common issues including: OCD, childhood sexual abuse, Adoption, Suicide, Schizoid issues, Bi-Polar, Personality disorders, and much more besides. Carlos is willing and able to work with any individual or couple and their presenting issues and is a fully qualified and indemnified member of the BACP (MBACP). Read Carlos’ profile.
Carlos is an extremely insightful Psychotherapist who works with his clients in a gentle, caring and non-judging way. He is sensitive to their needs, fears, frustrations, and frailties, but also has the strength, courage, congruence and compassion necessary to truly connect with his clients and support them through whatever difficulties they may bring without he himself becoming jaded, rejecting, retaliatory, fearful or demanding. He has over four years clinical experience as an NHS Psychotherapist and Counsellor providing Therapy in and around Northamptonshire and also works for MIND and in the past for CRUSE as a Bereavement Therapist. His patience and care, combined with keen analytical and interpretative skills provides his clients with an environment for growth and change that is second to none and he has extensive experience Counselling Adults, (both Men and Women), Adolescents and Children.
Suzanne is an intuitive, compassionate, committed, and insightful Anger Management Specialist who has previously worked for the NHS and CRUSE providing Counselling and Psychotherapy to Adults and Adolescents and now works Full-Time for TonicTalk. Suzanne is an Integrative Jungian Psychotherapist who is able to work with any individual and their presenting issues and her experience includes Depression, Infertility, Childhood Sexual Abuse, low self worth, Bereavement, Bullying, Parental abuse, and much more besides. Suzanne has an MA in Psychotherapy and Healing Practice (Middlesex). Read Suzanne’s profile.
People seek Counselling, Psychotherapy, Anxiety Therapy, Anger Management and other Psychotherapeutic services for a myriad of personal and individual reasons far too diverse to list here; but, whatever your reason, whatever your therapeutic need, no matter how personal, painful or difficult, WE ARE HERE TO HELP YOU. We are here to support you in your need; without Prejudice, Judging, Imposition, Fear, Rejection, or Retaliation, but with Care, Compassion, Empathy, Dedication, Authenticity and Connection. We can help you achieve whatever you need to achieve; resolve whatever you need to resolve; express what you need to share or become whomever you need to become. If it is your time for change, then we will make time for you. Give us a call. Our fees are very competitive.
We are a partnership of independent Psychotherapists and Psychotherapeutic Counsellors who specialise in offering high quality Therapeutic services to the general public; Men, Women, Children and Young people from all backgrounds and walks of life. We are fully qualified and indemnified, highly trained, and experienced and dedicated to providing for your Therapeutic needs. Our individual Therapeutic services include Psychotherapy, Counselling, Systemic therapy, Relationship Therapy, Life Coaching, Jungian style Dream Analysis, Anger and Stress Management and Resolution, and Personal Development.
We also specialise in Facilitated Group Personal Development and Group and Individual Psychological Training for Personal and Professional Development. Group facilitation includes Support, Encounter, Process, Developmental and bespoke groups, (please see Facilitated Groups). Our Individual and Group training and workshops target Professional development, Communication skills, Relationship building, Team building and much more besides, (please see Training)..
Not all Counsellors, Psychotherapists or Psychotherapeutic Trainers are the same. As with all professions and trades there are useful, helpful, well trained, skilful, dedicated and diligent Professionals and Trades-people and there are those who are not. ‘Good Therapists are hard to find’ and therefore worth travelling for. Our catchment areas are Northamptonshire, Bedfordshire, and Buckinghamshire including the towns and villages in and around Northampton, Bedford, Milton Keynes, Newport Pagnell, Wellingborough, Kettering, Olney, Market Harborough, St. Neots, Towcester, Corby, Stony Stratford, and Rushden. While we may not be ‘local’ to you, our services are worth travelling for. We also offer group services, workshops and seminars around the UK and abroad. Whatever your Therapeutic or training need please feel free to contact us regardless of your location as we will be happy to help you with your needs or point you in the right direction.
Our fee structure is simple and universal across the three counties that we operate, Bedfordshire, Buckinghamshire and Northamptonshire. Regardless of which consultation room, you will paythe same fees:
- Higham Ferrers, near Wellingborough approximately 20 minutes from Northampton or
- Newport Pagnell near Milton Keynes and Olney just off the M1 or
- Bedford in the heart of the town just off the High Street
Regardless of the counselling service you choose, be it Counselling, Psychotherapy, Anger Management, Life Coaching / Mentoring, Couple / Marriage Counselling, Family therapies, Anxiety treatments, Relational therapies, and which Counsellor or Psychotherapist you choose you will pay the same hourly rate.
Individuals: One to One appointments
- £50 per hour (pro rata there after) weekdays between 9:00am and 9:00pm
- £80 per hour (pro rata there after) Saturdays between 10:30am and 4:00pm
- £90 per hour (pro rata there after) Sundays between 11:00am and 3:00pm
A weekday appointment, morning, daytime or evening, for an individual costs only £50.
Couples or Parent and child: Two to One appointments
- £80 per 75 minute appointment (pro rata there after) weekdays between 9:00am and 9:00pm
- £100 per 75 minute appointment (pro rata there after) Saturdays between 10:30am and 4:00pm
- £120 per 75 minute appointment (pro rata there after) Sundays between 11:00am and 3:00pm
A weekday appointment for a couple is just £80
Concessionary rates are available upon request for those on low incomes or in financial difficulties. These rates are made available by the individual therapists, are not means tested and are at the therapist’s discretion.
For more information on Fees and Concessions and conditions of service; please visit our Fees and Conditions page
TonicTalk is an independent client funded partnership of fully trained, qualified and experienced Psychotherapists and Counsellors who specialise in providing high quality Counselling, Psychotherapy and other Therapeutic services to the general public. We provide services to Men, Women, and Young people, from all backgrounds, faiths and walks of life. Our Male and Female Therapists are fully inclusive and non-discriminatory and dedicated to providing for your needs. We are her for you.
Not all Psychotherapists and Counsellors are the same. As it is with all professions there are those who are dedicated to their work; who give reverence to the needs of others and are therefore useful, properly trained, skilled, helpful and diligent Professionals and there are those who are not. Therefore, do not leave your personal and professional development or your or your family’s health and wellbeing to chance. Instead, contact TonicTalk and employ a proven professional.
Our practice catchment counties are Northamptonshire, Bedfordshire, and Buckinghamshire. This includes the towns and villages in and around Northampton, Bedford, Milton Keynes, Newport Pagnell, Wellingborough, Kettering, Olney, Corby, Stony Stratford, and Rushden. While you may have to drive to us, your personal care, development and wellbeing is worth a short car journey.
For more information, please visit the following:
- About TonicTalk: A description of the partnership, its goals history and function.
- Contact Us: Details of how to contact us and our venue locations.
- About this Site: Details concerning this site and its function.
Professional Counselling and Psychotherapy offers you an integrated opportunity to change your life forever. You and your family deserve peace, happiness and wellbeing and TonicTalk Counselling and Psychotherapy are here to help you achieve that goal.
- Your choice of male or female full-time, professional, highly qualified and experienced counsellors and psychotherapists
- Three consultation rooms in Northamptonshire, Bedfordshire and Buckinghamshire:
- Higham Ferrers room servicing Northampton, Kettering, Wellingborough, Irthlingborough, Billing, etc.
- Newport Pagnell room servicing Milton Keynes, Luton, Olney, Emberton, etc.
- Bedford town centre room servicing Bedford, Kempston, Elstow, etc.
- Flexible: Morning, Afternoon and Evening appointments.
- Confidential Service
- Please note: Services accessed via GP or NHS are recorded on your permanent health record which affects employment prospects, insurance costs and court cases.
TonicTalk Anger Management therapists are fully trained counsellors and have years of experience in helping people of any age and gender over Anger Management issues. We help people overcome:
• Both Overt Aggression and Passive Aggression
• Snappishness, Quick temperedness, Petulance
• Throwing and breaking objects, Punching things
• Shouting and Aggressive outbursts
• Physical, emotional and psychological abuse
• Domestic Violence
• Co-dependant relationships
Sadly, violence and threatening and bullying behaviours are common to couples, families, work places and society as a whole. From childhood through to adulthood an individual may suffer Physical, Emotional and Sexual abuse, bullying and harassment and this invariably has a long term effect on their lives and relationships. Our Psychotherapists and Counsellors are dedicated and experienced in working sensitively with to help them rebuild healthy lives and relationships.
More than 50% of all long term committed relationships including marriages fail, it therefore seems a worthwhile investment to resolve issues rather than the alternative. Our counsellors and Psychotherapists specialise in helping people improve all forms of relationships including:
• Couples, Marriages & Civil Partnerships
• Parent and Child, Siblings, & Interfamily
TonicTalk can help you:
• Resolve conflicts and Misunderstandings
• Overcome and avoid bitterness and resentment
• Understand and accept each other
• Improve your Communication skills
• Voice needs and goals and achieve them
• Improve intimacy, care and Love
• Minimise all forms of aggression
Even great relationships have their issues. People service their cars and boilers as a precaution. Why not invest in your relationship to ensure small issues do not become critical and also to improve and develop?
TonicTalk also offers assistance when relationships and marriages fail, helping keep costs to a minimum and reducing the psychological damage done to children.
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Anxiety is a common to complex emotional, psychological and behavioural issue that can include the extremes of Panic Attacks, Phobias, OCD and GAD. Despite being ineffectual and having side-effects, G.P.s offer Anti-Anxiety medication which can only manage symptoms and will not resolve the underlying causes. Counselling and Psychotherapy offers one of the few viable long term sustainable solutions and our counsellors and Psychotherapists have great success in assisting individuals to overcome Anxiety, Panic Attacks, OCD and GAD.
There are many forms of depression, both long-term and short-term, and often these are treated with long term antidepressants which only manage symptomology without the prospect of a real sustainable solution. Talking therapies like Counselling and Psychotherapy can bring long term sustainable relief and we have an excellent reputation for providing such help.
We are a privately funded Psychotherapy and Counselling practice and therefore work directly for our clients and in their best interest. Client confidentially is assured through the following procedures:
- Since computers are vulnerable to attack and data theft; no personal client information or Counselling / Psychotherapy session notes are kept on computer.
- Client session notes and personal information are only kept as hard copy and securely locked away. Access to these paper records is restricted to the Therapist and Client unless directed by a court order or under other legal obligation.
- To ensure privacy and confidentiality, TonicTalk and its agents will not share any information concerning Counselling, Psychotherapy or other services accessed by a clients with any other agency unless specifically directed to do so by court order.
- The health services keep complete and lifelong medical records of all medical interventions including those reported by other agencies. Many, both within and without the health services have access to medical records and as such they should not be considered confidential. Often, insurers and employers demand access to medical records such that their content may prejudice both the availability and cost of insurance or be detrimental to employment prospects. In our opinion, it is therefore, not in the best interest of clients to inform G.P.s of services accessed.
For many people making the decision to take up Counselling or Psychotherapy is difficult. They often feel that their issues and concerns are not important enough to warrant attention for fear of being seen as a ‘malingerer’, ‘time waster’ or fraud when there are people who ‘really’ need help out there. Others feel that their issues and concerns are so insurmountable and overwhelming that they are impossible to resolve. And if they expressed how they feel; that they would lose themselves or never stop crying; or that a Therapist would not be able to ‘cope’ or be unwilling to help. Others feel that no one could begin to understand how they feel or be able to help, so what is the point trying to explain it? And others feel that their ’secret’ is so terrible or damning that they would be judged and rejected if anyone knew.
Small or large; any issue or concern that is having a detrimental effect on your life or the life of your family or your personal wellbeing is worth investing in to resolve. Anything that ‘pulls you down’, depresses you, causes you stress, anxiety or fear or to devalue yourself is something Therapy can help you to overcome.
Counselling and Psychotherapy, when practiced by a properly trained, qualified and developed Therapist, offers a unique opportunity to engage with how you feel and think and with your past and present experiences, within a safe, supportive, non-judging, nurturing and healthy environment. It is a positive opportunity to work perhaps on the most difficult elements of your life and in so doing grow beyond them and be renewed.
Everything that you currently Feel, Think and have Experienced is completely ‘real’ and undeniable; but, while it may do, it does not have to be the limit of your life and potential happiness. You can grow beyond Fear, Shame, Depression, Anxiety, Despair, Loneliness, Unhappiness, Worthlessness, Aggression and anything else that plagues your life and robs you of your Dignity, Value, Resilience, Spontaneity, Confidence, Tolerance, Appreciation, Peace and Joy. Life has infinite possibilities and in general, is what we make it. Through Therapy you can realise your potential and become all that you able to be.
While many may feel that Therapy is for weak, and perhaps ‘mental’ or ‘crazy’ people; it is not. Therapy is for everyone and anyone who wants to move beyond their issues, worries and concerns or overcome personal psychological problems that degrade their lives. Through the assistance Therapy offers, you can achieve joy, and a better connection and understanding with yourself and those in your life; you can become more tolerant and peaceful; and you can achieve a sense of self appreciation that will reflect in everything you do. Happiness is achieved when what you think, feel and do are in harmony with each other and your social and personal context; and Therapy can help you achieve this.
There is no need to ‘suffer in silence’ or ‘put up with’ things as they are. We are here to help you.
All our Therapists are experienced, skilled, qualified, reputable and professional practitioners who are able to provide help and therapy in the vast majority of cases. They are ordinary people who have worked and studied hard for years to acquire skills, insights, and personal qualities and achieve personal development that enables them to work effectively with clients.
Ordinarily, for the majority of people before they engage the services of a therapist they have many questions pertaining to types of therapies, diagnosis’, costs, time scales, expectations, and much, much more besides. In this section we hope to ask those questions and answer them as clearly and succinctly as possible. If however, you have a question that is not answered, please feel free to ‘contact us’ and we will endeavour to answer the question, find you an answer or point you in the right direction.
Here you will find Ideas, and Experience concerning how best to utilise your resources, Financial and Personal, to gain maximum benefit with respect to your personal development. We hope to promote that which we feel is helpful, explode some myths and expose the pitfalls so that you can at least recognise them. The section is divided up into four pages:
- Personal and Professional Issues
- Personal Therapy
- Group Work
- Independent Growth
In this section we have placed all that we would like to include on this site that did not fit under any of the previous headings:
This article has been randomly selected from a group of Counselling and Psychotherapy articles which attempt to provide information concerning the Therapeutic process and how it can help with respect to specific issues and concerns. The list is not exhaustive and we will continue to add to it when the opportunity arises.
At some point in our lives we will all suffer all suffer losses and bereavements. These events are considered ‘common life events’ and as such there is a social expectation that individuals should, given an amount of time to adjust, be able to simply ‘cope’ with them. However, such losses and changes can have huge impact and can become overwhelming. Counselling and Psychotherapy offer a safe and confidential place in whish to express one’s emotional content and gradually come to terms with events and learn to reinvest in life once more.
If you feel the need to confidentially talk with someone please feel free to Contact Us.
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