• Anger Management • Anger Therapy • Anger Treatment • Aggression Therapy • Aggression Management • Aggression Treatment •
• Anger • Violence • Bullying • Abuse • Passive Aggression • Manipulation • Control • Road Rage • Assault • Common Assault • Domestic Violence •
TonicTalk Counsellors and Psychotherapists are highly qualified and experienced professional therapists offering a full range of counselling and psychotherapy services. We are always happy to receive your calls to discuss your needs and how we may be of service.
Tel: 01933 395 497
Tel: 01933 395 497
Mob: 0742 714 4234
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Mob: 0783 778 4663
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Anger, Aggression and Violence are common issues within Western society and as the demands of modern living increase so do many of the underlying causes: Stress, Frustration, Resentment, Anxiety, Low self esteem, Insecurity and loss of significance, worth or role. Society’s general attitude towards the issue is also confused and only serves to compound the problems. While naturally, society is seen to condemn violent behaviour; angry and aggressive behaviour is often applauded for some in the public eye while deplored for the rest of society. Also, ‘knee jerk’ reactive punishment, blaming and shaming of the individual, fails to offer the help and understanding need to overcome issues and reduce proliferation and also discourages individuals from seeking such help. Shame, guilt and fear of reprisals or retaliation often forces individuals to deny and suppress normal and natural feelings of frustration, resentment, anxiety, anger and aggression thus substituting passive-aggression or episodic outbursts for healthy expression and dialogue. This can often be seen in children, who are taught that all forms of angry, aggressive and violent behaviour are ‘bad’ and are to be avoided. We fail to teach our children how to express their feelings appropriately; that Anger and Aggression are normal and natural responses; how and when to be angry or what is an appropriate response. They are untrained and inexperienced is dealing with their feelings and their need to express their feelings and frustration are denied or suppressed. It is therefore to be expected that this carries on into adult life.
While many will deny it, most people suffer from frustration and resentment and have angry or aggressive thoughts or behaviours and do not know what to do to resolve their issues. Fortunately, help is at hand and more and more people are seeking help with their issues through ‘Anger Management’.
TonicTalk's Anger Management services are second to none and include training and classes for individuals, couples and groups. Within relationships, aggressive and or violent behaviour is either individual with a single anger-sufferer or reciprocal involving both parties. TonicTalk specialists are highly skilled in helping individuals and couples work through their issues so that aggression and violence no longer ruins their lives, relationships and family life.
Individual Anger Management Training: One to One appointments
- £50 per hour (pro-rata there after) weekdays between 9:00am and 9:00pm
- Saturday and Sunday from morning till late evening: Intensive Appointments, (minimum TWO hours), £60 per hour pro-rata
Counselling Aggressive Couples:
- Week days, Monday to Friday £80 per 75 minutes 9:00am and 9:00pm
- Saturday and Sunday from morning till late evening: Intensive Appointments, (minimum TWO hours), £60 per hour pro-rata
Intensive Anger Management Classes:
- Monday to Sunday from morning till late evening: Intensive Appointments, (minimum TWO hours), £60 per hour pro-rata
Intensive Anger Management for Couples:
- Monday to Sunday from morning till late evening: Intensive Appointments, (minimum TWO hours), £60 per hour pro-rata
Example: A weekday appointment, morning, daytime or evening, for an individual costs only £50.
For more information on Anger Management fees please visit our Fees and Conditions page.
Anger Management has over a number of years been examined and revisited and its shortcomings realised. Anger management generally focuses upon symptoms and fails to resolve underlying causation and therefore, in the long term, symptoms return and sometimes with renewed vigour and destructive force. Anger Management also has a tendency to focus great energy and attention on the use of ‘tools’ to help individuals cope with or manage their issues. However, it is now known that many of the tools offered create more problems than they resolve. For example, displacement therapy, encouraging individuals to vent frustrations, aggression and violence onto pillows and other soft objects while thinking of those they are annoyed with, is fraught with issues and problems. Displacement Therapy makes it easier to hit people and promotes violence by overcoming inhibitions concerning violence because the brain does not know the difference between reality and imaginings. Your brain thinks you hit the people you imagine you hit and therefore it becomes easy to hit them because you already have. Also the use of ‘tools’ to overcome or mask symptoms inevitably cannot offer longevity or sustainability and the failure of many tools results in the worsening of problems and engenders feelings of failure, deficiency, hopelessness and self-deprecation, (punishing oneself and thinking ill of oneself), which further adds to one’s issues.
Another problem that creates huge issues for Anger Management is that Anger Management trainers are generally not fully qualified and indemnified Counsellors or Psychotherapists. They are often individuals who see ‘Anger Management’ as a lucrative opportunity to make money and attend minimum training in order to enable them to facilitate their ‘client work’. However, they are ill qualified and untrained in dealing with the very real and often complex personal issues that lie at the centre of their client’s problems. What they actually offer to clients is a ‘sticking plaster’ in the form of a cognitive or behavioural ‘fix’ that has no depth or longevity in its application which becomes ‘unstuck’ under the pressure and strain of deeper issues.
Anger Management has grown beyond these rather unhelpful practices and evolved into Anger Therapy. And while Anger Therapy may still for continuity be called Anger Management, clients need to ensure that what is being offered is Anger Therapy and it is being offered by fully trained and indemnified Counsellors or Psychotherapists.
Anger Therapy is an in depth intervention based on proven Psychotherapeutic Techniques that offer long term sustainable results. Clients are engaged with on a very personal level without assumption, judgement or rejection and the emphasis is on self discovery, personal responsibility, personal growth, and a movement away for destructive self loathing, low self worth and other personal issues. Anger Therapy helps an individual grow beyond their need to be aggressive and violent.
TonicTalk offers Anger Resolution Therapy over Anger Management. If you find that your behaviour is damaging your relationships, friendships or work opportunities and contributing to your unhappiness, we can help you quickly reduce and overcome your issues.
Considering the importance of psychological health and the impact that personal issues and concerns can have on an individual’s life and wellbeing; we feel that it is important for clients to find accessible professional and effective Counselling and Psychotherapy services. To this end we have two venues that can be accessed conveniently in which such services can be found.
This private room is bright and airy and comfortably furnished and is conveniently situated in East Northamptonshire with plenty of parking and easy access from the A6 and A45.
Its catchment area includes Rushden, Corby, Kettering, Wellingborough, Wollaston, Irthlingborough, Finedon, Thrapston, St. Neots, Pavenham, Sharnbrook, Billing, Earls Barton, Cogenhoe, Great Doddington, Northampton, and Bedford. All are within 15 miles travel. See Contact Us for more details.
This room is situated within DeVere’s hotel and conference facility in Newport Pagnell. It is a smart, tidy building with plenty of off-street parking, a public gym, reception areas, coffee bars, internet access and much more besides. The room itself is light and spacious and furnished in a contemporary style. Utilising a conference facility allows us to offer our clients complete anonymity and confidentiality. If you arrive early to your session you can relax and take advantage of the public waiting area with refreshments and WC. This facility has excellent disabled access.
Its catchment area includes Milton Keynes, Olney, Emberton, Kempston, Stony Stratford, Bletchley, Bedford and other surrounding towns and villages. See Contact Us for more details.
This section contains pages pertaining to each of our therapists. We hope that this will allow you to get to know our therapists a little better and help you choose who you would like to work with.
His experience is wide and varied and ranges from common life issues including: Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem issues, Relationship issues, Bereavement, childhood neglect and abuse, Bullying, Divorce and Separation, Work and Career issues, Adoption, Spousal / Partner / Wife / Husband Abuse, Anger Management issues, Substance Misuse, Alcoholism and Self Harm, and Neglect. To less common issues including: OCD, childhood sexual abuse, Adoption, Suicide, Schizoid issues, Bi-Polar, Personality disorders, and much more besides. Carlos is willing and able to work with any individual or couple and their presenting issues and is a fully qualified and indemnified member of the BACP (MBACP). Read Carlos’ profile.
Carlos is an extremely insightful Psychotherapist who works with his clients in a gentle, caring and non-judging way. He is sensitive to their needs, fears, frustrations, and frailties, but also has the strength, courage, congruence and compassion necessary to truly connect with his clients and support them through whatever difficulties they may bring without he himself becoming jaded, rejecting, retaliatory, fearful or demanding. He has over four years clinical experience as an NHS Psychotherapist and Counsellor providing Therapy in and around Northamptonshire and also works for MIND and in the past for CRUSE as a Bereavement Therapist. His patience and care, combined with keen analytical and interpretative skills provides his clients with an environment for growth and change that is second to none and he has extensive experience Counselling Adults, (both Men and Women), Adolescents and Children.
Suzanne is an intuitive, compassionate, committed, and insightful Anger Management Specialist who has previously worked for the NHS and CRUSE providing Counselling and Psychotherapy to Adults and Adolescents and now works Full-Time for TonicTalk. Suzanne is an Integrative Jungian Psychotherapist who is able to work with any individual and their presenting issues and her experience includes Depression, Infertility, Childhood Sexual Abuse, low self worth, Bereavement, Bullying, Parental abuse, and much more besides. Suzanne has an MA in Psychotherapy and Healing Practice (Middlesex). Read Suzanne’s profile.
People seek Counselling, Psychotherapy, Anxiety Therapy, Anger Management and other Psychotherapeutic services for a myriad of personal and individual reasons far too diverse to list here; but, whatever your reason, whatever your therapeutic need, no matter how personal, painful or difficult, WE ARE HERE TO HELP YOU. We are here to support you in your need; without Prejudice, Judging, Imposition, Fear, Rejection, or Retaliation, but with Care, Compassion, Empathy, Dedication, Authenticity and Connection. We can help you achieve whatever you need to achieve; resolve whatever you need to resolve; express what you need to share or become whomever you need to become. If it is your time for change, then we will make time for you. Give us a call. Our fees are very competitive.
We are a partnership of independent Psychotherapists and Psychotherapeutic Counsellors who specialise in offering high quality Therapeutic services to the general public; Men, Women, Children and Young people from all backgrounds and walks of life. We are fully qualified and indemnified, highly trained, and experienced and dedicated to providing for your Therapeutic needs. Our individual Therapeutic services include Psychotherapy, Counselling, Systemic therapy, Relationship Therapy, Life Coaching, Jungian style Dream Analysis, Anger and Stress Management and Resolution, and Personal Development.
We also specialise in Facilitated Group Personal Development and Group and Individual Psychological Training for Personal and Professional Development. Group facilitation includes Support, Encounter, Process, Developmental and bespoke groups, (please see Facilitated Groups). Our Individual and Group training and workshops target Professional development, Communication skills, Relationship building, Team building and much more besides, (please see Training)..
Not all Counsellors, Psychotherapists or Psychotherapeutic Trainers are the same. As with all professions and trades there are useful, helpful, well trained, skilful, dedicated and diligent Professionals and Trades-people and there are those who are not. ‘Good Therapists are hard to find’ and therefore worth travelling for. Our catchment areas are Northamptonshire, Bedfordshire, and Buckinghamshire including the towns and villages in and around Northampton, Bedford, Milton Keynes, Newport Pagnell, Wellingborough, Kettering, Olney, Market Harborough, St. Neots, Towcester, Corby, Stony Stratford, and Rushden. While we may not be ‘local’ to you, our services are worth travelling for. We also offer group services, workshops and seminars around the UK and abroad. Whatever your Therapeutic or training need please feel free to contact us regardless of your location as we will be happy to help you with your needs or point you in the right direction.
- Full time professional practice: Sessions available from early morning to late evening.
- Concessions available upon request.
Individuals: One to One appointments
- £50 per hour (pro rata there after) weekdays between 9:00am and 9:00pm
- £80 per hour (pro rata there after) Saturdays between 10:30am and 4:00pm
- £90 per hour (pro rata there after) Sundays between 11:00am and 3:00pm
A weekday appointment, morning, daytime or evening, for an individual costs only £50.
Couples or Parent and child: Two to One appointments
- £80 per 75 minute appointment (pro rata there after) weekdays between 9:00am and 9:00pm
- £100 per 75 minute appointment (pro rata there after) Saturdays between 10:30am and 4:00pm
- £120 per 75 minute appointment (pro rata there after) Sundays between 11:00am and 3:00pm
A weekday appointment for a couple is just £80
For more information on Fees and Concessions and conditions of service; please visit our Fees and Conditions page
We are a partnership of independent Psychotherapists and Psychotherapeutic Counsellors who specialise in offering high quality Therapeutic services to the general public; Men, Women, Children and Young people from all backgrounds and walks of life. Our Male and Female Therapists are fully qualified and indemnified, highly trained, and experienced and dedicated to providing for your Therapeutic needs.
Not all Counsellors, Psychotherapists or Psychotherapeutic Trainers are the same. As with all professions and trades there are useful, helpful, well trained, skilful, dedicated and diligent Professionals and Trades-people and there are those who are not. ‘Good Therapists are hard to find’ and therefore worth travelling for. Our catchment areas are Northamptonshire, Bedfordshire, and Buckinghamshire including the towns and villages in and around Northampton, Bedford, Milton Keynes, Newport Pagnell, Wellingborough, Kettering, Olney, Market Harborough, St. Neots, Towcester, Corby, Stony Stratford, and Rushden.
While we may not be in walking distance to you, our services are worth travelling for. We also offer group services, workshops and seminars around the UK and abroad. Whatever your Therapeutic or training need please feel free to contact us regardless of your location as we will be happy to help you with your needs or point you in the right direction.
For more information pertaining to the partnership and this site please visit the following:
- About TonicTalk: A description of the partnership, its goals history and function.
- Contact Us: Details of how to contact us and our venue locations.
- About this Site: Details concerning this site and its function.
Professional Counselling and Psychotherapy offers you an integrated opportunity to change your life forever. You and your family deserve peace, happiness and wellbeing and TonicTalk Counselling and Psychotherapy are here to help you achieve that goal.
- Your choice of male or female full-time, professional, highly qualified and experienced counsellors and psychotherapists
- Three consultation rooms in Northamptonshire, Bedfordshire and Buckinghamshire:
- Higham Ferrers room servicing Northampton, Kettering, Wellingborough, Irthlingborough, Billing, etc.
- Newport Pagnell room servicing Milton Keynes, Luton, Olney, Emberton, etc.
- Bedford town centre room servicing Bedford, Kempston, Elstow, etc.
- Flexible: Morning, Afternoon and Evening appointments.
- Confidential Service
- Please note: Services accessed via GP or NHS are recorded on your permanent health record which affects employment prospects, insurance costs and court cases.
TonicTalk Anger Management therapists are fully trained counsellors and have years of experience in helping people of any age and gender over Anger Management issues. We help people overcome:
• Both Overt Aggression and Passive Aggression
• Snappishness, Quick temperedness, Petulance
• Throwing and breaking objects, Punching things
• Shouting and Aggressive outbursts
• Physical, emotional and psychological abuse
• Domestic Violence
• Co-dependant relationships
Sadly, violence and threatening and bullying behaviours are common to couples, families, work places and society as a whole. From childhood through to adulthood an individual may suffer Physical, Emotional and Sexual abuse, bullying and harassment and this invariably has a long term effect on their lives and relationships. Our Psychotherapists and Counsellors are dedicated and experienced in working sensitively with to help them rebuild healthy lives and relationships.
More than 50% of all long term committed relationships including marriages fail, it therefore seems a worthwhile investment to resolve issues rather than the alternative. Our counsellors and Psychotherapists specialise in helping people improve all forms of relationships including:
• Couples, Marriages & Civil Partnerships
• Parent and Child, Siblings, & Interfamily
TonicTalk can help you:
• Resolve conflicts and Misunderstandings
• Overcome and avoid bitterness and resentment
• Understand and accept each other
• Improve your Communication skills
• Voice needs and goals and achieve them
• Improve intimacy, care and Love
• Minimise all forms of aggression
Even great relationships have their issues. People service their cars and boilers as a precaution. Why not invest in your relationship to ensure small issues do not become critical and also to improve and develop?
TonicTalk also offers assistance when relationships and marriages fail, helping keep costs to a minimum and reducing the psychological damage done to children.
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Anxiety is a common to complex emotional, psychological and behavioural issue that can include the extremes of Panic Attacks, Phobias, OCD and GAD. Despite being ineffectual and having side-effects, G.P.s offer Anti-Anxiety medication which can only manage symptoms and will not resolve the underlying causes. Counselling and Psychotherapy offers one of the few viable long term sustainable solutions and our counsellors and Psychotherapists have great success in assisting individuals to overcome Anxiety, Panic Attacks, OCD and GAD.
There are many forms of depression, both long-term and short-term, and often these are treated with long term antidepressants which only manage symptomology without the prospect of a real sustainable solution. Talking therapies like Counselling and Psychotherapy can bring long term sustainable relief and we have an excellent reputation for providing such help.
We are a privately funded Psychotherapy and Counselling practice and therefore work directly for our clients and in their best interest. Client confidentially is assured through the following procedures:
- Since computers are vulnerable to attack and data theft; no personal client information or Counselling / Psychotherapy session notes are kept on computer.
- Client session notes and personal information are only kept as hard copy and securely locked away. Access to these paper records is restricted to the Therapist and Client unless directed by a court order or under other legal obligation.
- To ensure privacy and confidentiality, TonicTalk and its agents will not share any information concerning Counselling, Psychotherapy or other services accessed by a clients with any other agency unless specifically directed to do so by court order.
- The health services keep complete and lifelong medical records of all medical interventions including those reported by other agencies. Many, both within and without the health services have access to medical records and as such they should not be considered confidential. Often, insurers and employers demand access to medical records such that their content may prejudice both the availability and cost of insurance or be detrimental to employment prospects. In our opinion, it is therefore, not in the best interest of clients to inform G.P.s of services accessed.
For many people making the decision to take up Counselling or Psychotherapy is difficult. They often feel that their issues and concerns are not important enough to warrant attention for fear of being seen as a ‘malingerer’, ‘time waster’ or fraud when there are people who ‘really’ need help out there. Others feel that their issues and concerns are so insurmountable and overwhelming that they are impossible to resolve. And if they expressed how they feel; that they would lose themselves or never stop crying; or that a Therapist would not be able to ‘cope’ or be unwilling to help. Others feel that no one could begin to understand how they feel or be able to help, so what is the point trying to explain it? And others feel that their ’secret’ is so terrible or damning that they would be judged and rejected if anyone knew.
Small or large; any issue or concern that is having a detrimental effect on your life or the life of your family or your personal wellbeing is worth investing in to resolve. Anything that ‘pulls you down’, depresses you, causes you stress, anxiety or fear or to devalue yourself is something Therapy can help you to overcome.
Counselling and Psychotherapy, when practiced by a properly trained, qualified and developed Therapist, offers a unique opportunity to engage with how you feel and think and with your past and present experiences, within a safe, supportive, non-judging, nurturing and healthy environment. It is a positive opportunity to work perhaps on the most difficult elements of your life and in so doing grow beyond them and be renewed.
Everything that you currently Feel, Think and have Experienced is completely ‘real’ and undeniable; but, while it may do, it does not have to be the limit of your life and potential happiness. You can grow beyond Fear, Shame, Depression, Anxiety, Despair, Loneliness, Unhappiness, Worthlessness, Aggression and anything else that plagues your life and robs you of your Dignity, Value, Resilience, Spontaneity, Confidence, Tolerance, Appreciation, Peace and Joy. Life has infinite possibilities and in general, is what we make it. Through Therapy you can realise your potential and become all that you able to be.
While many may feel that Therapy is for weak, and perhaps ‘mental’ or ‘crazy’ people; it is not. Therapy is for everyone and anyone who wants to move beyond their issues, worries and concerns or overcome personal psychological problems that degrade their lives. Through the assistance Therapy offers, you can achieve joy, and a better connection and understanding with yourself and those in your life; you can become more tolerant and peaceful; and you can achieve a sense of self appreciation that will reflect in everything you do. Happiness is achieved when what you think, feel and do are in harmony with each other and your social and personal context; and Therapy can help you achieve this.
There is no need to ‘suffer in silence’ or ‘put up with’ things as they are. We are here to help you.
All our Therapists are experienced, skilled, qualified, reputable and professional practitioners who are able to provide help and therapy in the vast majority of cases. They are ordinary people who have worked and studied hard for years to acquire skills, insights, and personal qualities and achieve personal development that enables them to work effectively with clients.
Ordinarily, for the majority of people before they engage the services of a therapist they have many questions pertaining to types of therapies, diagnosis’, costs, time scales, expectations, and much, much more besides. In this section we hope to ask those questions and answer them as clearly and succinctly as possible. If however, you have a question that is not answered, please feel free to ‘contact us’ and we will endeavour to answer the question, find you an answer or point you in the right direction.
Here you will find Ideas, and Experience concerning how best to utilise your resources, Financial and Personal, to gain maximum benefit with respect to your personal development. We hope to promote that which we feel is helpful, explode some myths and expose the pitfalls so that you can at least recognise them. The section is divided up into four pages:
- Personal and Professional Issues
- Personal Therapy
- Group Work
- Independent Growth
In this section we have placed all that we would like to include on this site that did not fit under any of the previous headings:
This article has been randomly selected from a group of Counselling and Psychotherapy articles which attempt to provide information concerning the Therapeutic process and how it can help with respect to specific issues and concerns. The list is not exhaustive and we will continue to add to it when the opportunity arises.
The vast majority of people will at some point in their lives suffer from Depression and therefore depression is probably the most common symptom or ‘presenting issue’ which brings people to Counselling and Psychotherapy. Psychiatrists tend to divide depression into two categories; Neurotic or Reactive Depression and Psychotic ‘Endogenous’, (from within), Depression with symptoms respectively ranging form loss of apatite and insomnia to hopelessness and suicide.
As Therapists we are uncomfortable with the labels ‘neurotic’ and ‘psychotic’ as these have social connotations that are unhelpful to clients. Instead, we prefer clients to recognise the ‘normality’ of their conditions and rather than single them out as abnormal and perhaps without prospect or hope; we, in recognising their normality, offer hope and the prospect of overcoming their difficulties. We therefore, prefer to use a scale by which we can describe the psychological traits of the vast majority of people. The scale we use is divided into two equal parts; the Depressive spectrum occupying one side and the Obsessive spectrum the other. The most people will fall somewhere on the Depressive-Obsessive scale and though it as a scale, an individual may occupy either one or two positions, i.e. just display ‘dominant’ traits or also display ‘subordinate’ traits. Most people display a significant number of traits which would result in them being described as having Depressive or Obsessive tendencies, however, they will also display traits from the opposing spectrum which ‘modify’ their dominant trait. That is to say that some people are either ‘purely’ Depressive or Obsessive but many are depressive-Obsessive or obsessive-Depressive.
The Depressive spectrum ranges from severe or chronic Endogenous Depression through milder Endogenous Depression all the way to Reactive Depression.
Counselling and Psychotherapy, when given the opportunity, can help with all forms of depression from severe to mild, however, there is sometimes difficulty with more chronic forms of depression because the efficacy (effectiveness) of Therapy is significantly affected by the Therapeutic Relationship and sometimes with chronic depression there is an inability for the client to relate to others or themselves which may thwart the Therapist’s attempts to form a relationship.
The following quote is taken from Shakespeare’s
‘The Tragedy of Hamlet, Prince of Denmark’, (Act II, Scene II).
In it Hamlet describes his melancholia or depression thus:
“I have of late, but wherefore I know not, lost all my mirth,
Forgone all custom of exercise;
And indeed, it goes so heavily with my disposition;
That this goodly frame, the Earth, seems to me a sterile Promontory;
This most excellent canopy the air, look you, this brave overhanging firmament, this majestic roof, fretted with golden fire:
Why, it appears no other thing to me, then a foul and pestilent congregation of vapours.
What a piece of work is a man!
How Noble in Reason?
How infinite in faculty?
In form and moving, how express and admirable?
In Action, how like an Angel?
In apprehension, how like a God?
The beauty of the world, the Paragon of Animals;
And yet to me, what is this Quintessence of Dust?
Man delights not me; no, nor Woman neither. ”
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